You may also want to set up a couple of cushions on the floor to sit on as you meditate. Set the cushions so they are near each other, but so that there will be a bit of space between you and your partner.
Keep your spine straight, whether you are sitting or lying down, with your arms by your sides. Rest your arms loosely in your lap if you meditate in a seated position. [1] X Research source Keep your chin up and your head aligned with your spine if you are seated. [2] X Research source
Try to ignore intrusive thoughts and simply focus on the present moment. If a thought pops into your head, acknowledge the thought and then let it pass. For example, if you think of something that happened at work, then you might think to yourself, “yes, that happened,” and then picture the thought drifting away.
Try to be aware of yourself and how you feel. Take stock of how the air feels around your body, how all your different body parts feel from your hands to your feet. [4] X Research source
Focus on your physical sensations. Try to be as aware of your own body and the sensations you’re feeling as possible. The goal of sexual meditation is heightened awareness, which can lead to increased sexual arousal. [6] X Research source
Look at your partner. You can open your eyes and look into your partner’s eyes. Make sure that you notice your partner’s breathing as well. Glance at the movements of your partner’s body. [7] X Research source For example, you might watch your partner’s stomach and chest as they fill with air and then deflate again. Communicate with your partner without speaking. Try to use your face, hands, and eyes to show your partner what you are feeling. Watch your partner’s expressions as well. Try to see what he or she is feeling as well. [8] X Research source
Make sure that you choose something that will last long enough to play while you are meditating and having sex.
Matching breaths. You can start Taoist meditation by holding your partner and trying to merge your breathing. That is, match the pace of your inhaling and exhaling so that you and your partner are inhaling and exhaling at the same time. Keep going until you breathe as one. Hand pulsing. Pulsing is another form of Taoist sexual meditation. Gently open and close your partner’s hand or squeeze your partner’s hand using a smooth, gentle rhythm. Your partner can also squeeze your hand.
Eye gazing. Try to maintain eye contact with your partner while you have sex and as you climax as well. Alternating breaths. Try to alternate breaths with your partner. For example, you can breathe in as your partner breathes out and vice versa. [9] X Research source
